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Salam,

Dah lama aku tak update blog sejak Piala Dunia tempoh hari.Sibuk sikit dengan hal-hal di tempat kerja.Maklum sajalah..macam-macam perkara yang perlu diselesaikan demi untuk keselesaan pengguna lebuhraya utara selatan ni.cewah. Sekali sekala aku merayau-rayau di lapangan internet ini dan aku terjumpa sebuah artikel yang ingin aku kongsikan bersama.Yes,im a STARian. Sebab tu aku nak berkongsi artikel ni. Hanya STARian yang memahami STARian.kan?ahaha! Motif?takda motif pun..saja nak kongsi..tak sempat la nak tulis panjang-panjang .haha!


Dipetik dari sini untuk post kali ini.

Entah, tiba-tiba tercetus ilham menulis kisah cinta pula. Ini cerita kita. Reality yang sebahagian kita pernah lalui at one time or another.
I was wondering whether STARians are actually good lovers. Budak STAR ni berapa orang yang romantik as perceived by their partners. I know there are a few who are greater than Don Juan, Romeo or Majnun to name a few. But, looking back at our past history, some may wonder why I write this piece to be posted for the rest to read.


STAR is an all boys school. We severe our relationship with outside world at an early age, including girls. Of course, in our days (70's), our access to the outside was very limited. There was not even a public phone available. There was no girls around to have any kind of relationship. The only girls available were the kids of our kitchen staff and workers who stayed in the quarters provided for them. But the number was too small. Some were kids. Anak Kak Melah ada dua orang. Anak Pak Mat 'cook' ada sorang. Anak Amri pun 'cukup-cukup' saja.
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ellow House boys might be luckier because they were closest to the route taken daily by Raja Chulan students. So every evening they would hang themselves along the school fence and started shouting names and whistling to the girls. I am not sure whether any of the boys managed to get themselves hooked. Azlan should be able to tell.
During outings, Tanjung Rambutan bus station might be another good spot for 'orang-orang handsome' to set their trap. Their target would be the girls of Takyah. But then a strong challenge from Izzudin Shah boys had to be overcome first.


The rest would make good use of the sports meet, debate, educational (field) trips and anythng alike to try their luck. Some would use their charm to invite girls from outside to come and attend functions organised in the school with the hope that they could impress them into a relationship.


Some got entangled when they unexpectedly received mails from outside. How did it happen? Small pieces of paper with names of friends written on it would be thrown out of the bus window whenever there was group of girls chatting by the road side. Since the pieces were thrown from a bus of a 'famous' school, of course a few would respond by writing to the person, whose name written on it. That could be a beginning of a meaningful relationship.
I am sure they were some who already had 'girlfriends' even on the first day they came to STAR. The girls could be their former primary school mates, or they could even be their relatives. Maklum lah, budak STAR, prospect tinggi agaknya. That could be the kampong folks expectation on the boys then.


Some STARians got themselves introduced to girls by their friends. Sometimes we woul wonder why these friends were willing enough to introduce their 'girl friends' to other fellow STARians. And the relationship lasted.


I am not saying that STARians were/are bad at dealing with girls. I believed the surroundings made us such. Being in all boys school might have effected our confidence with the opposite sex. I am not saying that we were only attracted to the same sex either. But yet there were a few of us who had a number of 'girlfriends' and ever willing to distribute them to other friends if they need one.


There were times when the opportunity was there, but due to our own 'inferiority' we failed to embark on a meaningful relationship. This might be due to some principles that they were holding on. These were the people who would want to finish schooling without being distracted by unwanted threats, including starting a relationship.
Some failed to start a relationship because they were afraid of being 'labelled' as orang handsome. They would rather stay on being a 'lone ranger' than being branded with names.
Of course as boys, the urge to get closer or to start a relationship with girls will always be part of us. But then, getting started was not easy. Some might need the accompany of another friend on the first date. In the end, the friend got it.


Some even used proxy just to make sure the girl they wanted to meet was up to expectation before starting a relationship. Again, in the end the proxy got it, because he's the one who started all the conversations and convincing acts.


There were times when we really acted ungentlemently just because we wanted to retain our status quo. I remember when we had a trip to Kolam Air. The bus had already reached the hall. The teachers were already down. The girls were waiting. Yet, none of us got down to meet the girls just because there was someone at the back seat shouted " Kalau berasa handsome, pi la turun dulu'. Of course at the end there was a prince charming who sacrificed his pride to save the day.


Life changed after we left school. Campus and college life started to develope us into another person. And yet a few remained the same. Some might find it difficult to start. Some even shyed away knowing that they had admirers. Some struggled but failed to impress the ladies of their dream. Of course most of us were ok.
Some managed to get girls of the same kind - ex boarders from JB, Seremban and Jalan Kolam Air. Don't be surprised if the relationship actually started during their journey home for the term holidays.

So, how would we relate ourselves to the experiences that we had gone through with girls while we were in school before we decided to choose a partner to be a mother of our kids. Everybody had their own way of getting it done. Some were match made, some got it themselves, some caught 'red handed' and so on and so forth. Whatever way we got it, let's live it to the fullest because the first is always the best of all times.


Thank you.